The quest to discover each other’s humanity. Imagine!


Love is but the discovery of ourselves in others, and the delight in the recognition.   – Alexander Smith

There is a strategy I suggest teachers use when their students get two concepts confused; things like mitosis and meiosis, latitude and longitude, respiration and photosynthesis, similes and metaphors.  I tell them to teach the differences first because the human brain identifies difference and therefore by discussing how two items, terms or concepts are different, before we talk about their similarities, the distinction is clear.

Sadly, this amazing facet of the brain and how we learn, has considerable consequences for our relationships with others and, at times, our humanity.  If we unconsciously identify difference we see only how others are separate from us, are unlike us and therefore we can fail to connect.

If I see only your different coloured skin, your different language, your different rituals and customs, your different style of worship, your different sexuality; I fail to immediately see the points where we are the same.  Too often this quirk of the brain is abused by media trying to create divide. Groups are labelled, individuals and their human story are ignored to install fear, create derision, to divide us.  Sometimes these tactics are employed by governments to force us into line in support of what may be inhumane, immoral or unjust policy decisions (think the refusal to take in refugees).

You see, once I identify you as a person, with a history, with feelings, with hopes and dreams, I can’t ignore your plight. I am almost compelled to come to your aid, support you, vouch for you.  My fear is gone when I realise you and I are women, we have families, we have struggled, we have loved. Yes, our backgrounds and life experience may differ, we may worship differently, dress differently but whittle away the circumstances of our birth and we are both humans, raw and needy, intelligent and courageous, feisty and loving. This bonding would not serve government but it might just serve the longevity of the human race on this little planet of ours.

In the words of John Lennon, imagine what the world would be like if we sought our points of connection and bonded before acknowledging our differences? Imagine what the world would be like if we presumed positive intent rather than assumed others meant us harm. Imagine what the world would be like if we were positive by design rather than negative by default.  Imagine what the world would be like if we sought to discover each other’s humanity. Imagine what the world would be like.  Imagine!



8 thoughts on “The quest to discover each other’s humanity. Imagine!

  1. Imagine what the world would be like …close your eyes and imagine . Shannyn I agree with every single beautiful word you have said . It’s words that scream in my head and this morning you have put them all together like a jigsaw .
    Love to you .
    P.S I adore John Lennon .
    Cherryx ❤️❤️

    • Cherry, I just said something similar to another blogger. They oftentimes put beautifully into words ideas that seem to hover and swirl unformed in my head. What I love about your comment is that we two, who live on other sides of the world and who have never met, have so very much in common. Kind of interesting isn’t it! A nice example I guess of what I am trying to relay. ❤️😉
      I just saw there is an exhibition of paintings by a local artist here this week, his subject is Lennon. I may just go along in honour of you.

  2. Shannyn what a beautiful post. If we could each look to the similarities we share with others. May a wish of love and kindness to each other echo around the world.

    • Thank you Sue. Yes, kindness and love. You live this philosophy with your sponsoring of your Syrian family. May we all learn from the example of others and do what we can to increase the love and kindness.

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